I Need to Take Time Off Immediately At A New Job  How Women Weigh In

I Need to Take Time Off Immediately At A New Job How Women Weigh In Asking for time off at the beginning of a new job can be intimidating, scary, and frowned up, depending on the circumstances. You are still unsure of your place within the company, youre trying to make a good impression, and you arent yet familiar with your boss and how she/he reacts to certain situations.While asking for time off to take a vacation can be risky, asking for necessary time off when a close relative is ill should be understandable to your boss and your company.One anonymous FGBer wrote into our Discussion Board to ask for advice on this sensitive subject.Its my first week at a new job. I need to take a few weeks off... immediately, she said. My mom is terminally ill. I have a flight ready to go see my mom in Florida, but I havent told my boss. This will be the last time I see my mom before she passes away, but I just started a new job that I cant afford to lose. What do I tell my boss?? I get too emoti onal thinking about it and end up wanting to cry every time I think to say something to him.Another FGBer offered her support, as well as very sound advice.Its a conversation youre going to have to have, right? So, if it were me, I would probably say something like, I know the zeiteinteilung of this is unfortunate, and Id like to make sure you understand that I am fully committed to this job. However, I have a family emergency, my mother has entered hospice care (or however you can say it), and I need a few personal days. Depending on what you do, you could offer to be available for questions/etc. via schmelzglas or text, if you feel up to it. Letting your boss know that you realize the timing is not great will help them feel better about trusting you. I hope this helps. Big hug.First, from everyone at Fairygodboss, we are so sorry to hear what you are going through.Being honest with your boss is key. Ask her/him to meet with you privately toward the end of the day if you are worrie d about getting emotional (and if you do get emotional, that is perfectly acceptable you are going through a very hard time, and your boss will understand). Be straightforward and stress to your boss how much this job means to you. Say that you are willing to take unpaid leave (if that is standard protocol).And dont forget to remind yourself that this could not have been predicted, and it is not your fault. Career site AskAManager.org says that in the case of a close relatives illness, the normal rules dont apply.If a very close relative parent, sibling, spouse, or child is seriously ill and you need to go be with them, reasonable managers will understand, the site continues.Monster gives similar advice, also adding to ask your supervisor if there is anything you can accomplish remotely while you are gone.Even though they may not have anything for you to do, or it isnt feasible, at least the question was asked, the site states.Again, these are extenuating circumstances. If you mus t ask for time off for a vacation at the beginning of a new job, ideally you would have mentioned said trip when the company made you an offer (bringing it up during the interview would be a little premature). However, if you did not mention the vacation prior to accepting the position, do so as soon as possible. AskAManager.org recommends sending an email to your supervisor -- something along the lines of I realized that in my excitement about the job, I overlooked the fact that I have an out-of-state trip scheduled for (dates). I apologize for not getting this on your radar earlier Will being away those dates cause any issues? (I assume I may need to take the time unpaid, which Im of course willing to do.) Thank you, and Im looking forward to starting work on the 12th